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by Abilene @ 18 Mar. 2008 - 20:25:35

Not sure how to start this.

Can't be bothered to be all tip toe-y and delicate about it.

For once I seem to have a half-way decent recent for ignoring everything.

On February 10th my son, Cody, was killed by a drunk driver along with his dad, my ex-husband.

I went back to work yesterday after being off for over a month.

I have ignored emails, texts and phone calls.

I have ignored everything and everyone.

Then I got to work and among the four zillion backed up emails and calender reminders was a reminder to send food to Sixey and Parsley. Remember we did the baby parcel and in it was the food idea of Cody's.

So, Sixey, if you are reading this ... I am sorry.

Now ... one foot in front of the other, breathe in and breathe out.

Life really does go on, unfortunately.

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redleaderredleader [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 20:30

So sorry. People will call.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

lisam25lisam25 [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 20:30

There are no words I can say that will ease the pain that you feel, but your friends will be there for you if you ever need them xx

moltsplacemoltsplace pro
2008-03-18 @ 20:30

OMG Abi, I'm so so sorry to hear that :(

*hugs*

Dunno what else to say.

x

ladee-birdladee-bird pro
2008-03-18 @ 20:33

OH. MY. GOD.

Oh Abi, I truly don't know what to say, I guess there is nothing I can say because it won't make a difference.

I can't possibly imagine what you have been going through/will continue to go through so I'm not going to attempt to understand that I do.

But we are here to listen and support you.

I am so so very sorry.

xx

Oh god that all sounds like complete crap!

timekillingkidtimekillingkid [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 20:45

xx.

So, so sorry hon.

Anything at this point seems too small but we are here for you *hug*

xxx

LandersUKLandersUK pro
2008-03-18 @ 20:47

x

Mrs_FMrs_F [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 20:48

Abi, I am so sorry that is just terrible.

If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know.

Hugs

x

redleaderredleader [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 20:53

(Rubychoo here)

No.

Words.

(I want to hold you and love you and I can't do anything)

x

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you have support around you.
Hugs
xxx

Old-NickOld-Nick pro
2008-03-18 @ 20:53

Abi. There is nothing I can say.

That is just so unfair.

xxxx

I understand what it must feel like losing someone so special to you.

I've only got yer old mobile number, hon.

So very sorry for yer wee yin. Life is so shit.

Oh my God, my God. Abi. So sorry.

You have my number. Call whenever you feel the slightest of urges, any time.

xxx

redleaderredleader [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 21:00

(Juzzzy writes)

***

What?

Oh, fuck.

My friend, my dear friend.

You have my heart tonight.

Every last bit of it.

To him: Both of them.

And you.

xxxx

lorahjolorahjo [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 21:10

Time is the only healer. Truly feel for you at this excruciating time. x

Nixie [Visitor]

2008-03-18 @ 21:13

all i can say is: i love you. am still here always for you. and I am so very sorry

xxx

redleaderredleader [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 21:23

(Phoenix)

My love, I'm devastated for you.

I'm here.

07809 091070

xxxx

happy28happy28 pro
2008-03-18 @ 21:40

thinking of you,

xx

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-18 @ 21:50

I cant begin to understand how youre feeling, im sorry Abs xx

scoobydoofusscoobydoofus pro
2008-03-18 @ 21:54

Oh fuck. I have no idea what to say.

I've started to write about four things and deleted every single one.

If you need a break, come to Ireland. There's some massive hugs waiting for you.

x

AkashamustbekeptAkashamustbekept pro
2008-03-18 @ 22:03

I'm so sorry I can't imagine how you must feel, I really don't know what to say.

xx

sixpencesixpence pro
2008-03-18 @ 22:05

I am reading.

As if I would be worried about the food!

My heart goes out to you, Abi. I can't even begin to imagine what you have gone through, and are still going through.

There is nothing anyone can say to make this any easier for you to bear... but please know that you are truly in our thoughts, and we are sending you our utterly heartfelt sympathy, although that is nowhere near enough.

Lots of love, and the biggest hug I can offer,
Six xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sweetheart, I am so sorry for the death of your beautiful son, Cody. If I can help in anyway, please let me know. Luffs you..Kelly

sameoldsameold [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 22:07

Hi Abi,

I am so sorry for the loss of your Son Cody..

The Angels will look after him, until you can again

I will say a pray tonight for you and your Family

And for Cody - The Brightest Shining Star in the Sky -

(And as for the drunk driver scum bag - Hope you get Life -

Take care Abi x

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-18 @ 22:14

This will sound trite, but trite is all I've got.

He was a lovely, lovely lad. I say that with complete confidence, never having met him, because his food idea was such a thoughtful thing to suggest and just the suggestion was enough for me.

And people you love must live on in our hearts because that's the only place for them to live on, and we have to do our best to keep putting one foot in front of another in their homour because that's the only option we have.

And I have teenage children and I can't even begin to think how I'd put that in practice in your shoes.

Be strong Abi. God, I am so very very sorry.

x

the_moffthe_moff [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 22:24

I'm so sorry.
xx

Teri_RTeri_R pro
2008-03-18 @ 22:51

Abi

Hope you don't mind me dropping by to send my thoughts.

There are no words I can say.

He'll walk along lifes path beside you and is only a memory away

xxx

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-18 @ 23:28

omg abi fuck i dunno what i can say -i cant say anything you must be in so much fucking pain

do what you have to do
were here
we love ya
your our friend

if you wanna meet up and talk
im here

dont forget

im here ok xxxxxxxxxx

sending you lots of love and prayers

evilmomladyevilmomlady [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 23:34

I'm so very sorry. I know your pain and my heart goes out to you.
XXXX

ShipscookShipscook [Member]
2008-03-18 @ 23:35

Hi Abi

I'm so sorry to hear about Cody,

Hugs

beautiful_mistakebeautiful_mistake [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 01:17

x

PurpleDragonPurpleDragon [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 08:07

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going thru, so I won't even try, but know that there are folk thinking of you. Hugs, hon.

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-19 @ 08:44

I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling......I am so so sorry.......xxxxxxxx

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-19 @ 08:54

My deepest condolences Abi please remember you have a lot of support whenever you need it *big gentle hugs*

NotBobNotBob [Member]
http://notbob562.webs.com/blog.htm
2008-03-19 @ 09:04

So sorry for your loss. My heart and my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time.

Take care.
{hug}

GoingSomewhereGoingSomewhere [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 09:08

So very sorry. There is nothing worse.

XXX

boredrichboredrich [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 09:09

oh my god abi I am really so sorry to hear that terrible news. I cant even begin to imagine what hell you must have been going through you know that cody is now with you always and you will never be parted but I know that is no condolence now he isnt there to hug and cuddle you and to touch. take care abi we are all thinking of you at this terrible time we all care and are so sorry.
Love and hugs

It's hard to say anything without sounding trite or crass or both, so I will keep it short.

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

Wishing you well.

Hektor.

silentplanetsilentplanet [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 10:26

I don't know what to say, other than my thoughts are with you. Honour lives lost by being as happy as you can in your own.

miramazemiramaze [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 10:43

I'm so sorry for your loss, Abi. It is the unimaginable.. the unthinkable. Ripples of this tragedy have touched us all here in Blogland.

Spirit bless you with what you need and as you continue to breathe in and out.

Cody will always be with you in Spirit. He is fine and would want you to be fine too. Lots of love to you and your family at this time.

X

Oh, my poor love, all I can do is to send you huge great hugs and loads of love and tell you how dreadfully sorry I am for this awful loss...I lost my son as well so know how you feel...words are utterly inadequate...I'm always here if you need to talk about it...XXX

Chyna_DollChyna_Doll [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 12:18

I had no idea Jen you lost yours too. :( You and Abi and brave to bright this up for the public to see. Big Hugs xxx

Chyna_DollChyna_Doll [Member]
2008-03-19 @ 12:13

I can only imagine what you are going through.

xx

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-19 @ 12:19

Again, I am so devastated for you sweetheart.

Please take care of yourself.

With love,

K
x

sminchinsminchin pro
2008-03-19 @ 12:34

I don't know what to say
Thinking of you
x

Yes. I´m with sminchin here. Thinking of you x

sexymfsexymf pro
2008-03-19 @ 16:06

Your words have conveyed the enormous love you had for your son and there are no words right now that can ease that loss. Your love for Cody was good and he was good and I am distraught at your news.

All I know is that everything else is smaller now than it was, but life can fulfil again, but it will be a long time until you feel that.

You have my thoughts today.

Ryan and Michael [Visitor]
http://crbgray.blogger.com
2008-03-19 @ 17:42

Dear Abi,

Michael and I are so terribly sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

C. Ryan Gray

lyndljlyndlj pro
2008-03-19 @ 23:00

Words wont help you at this moment, just the presence of people that care, know that we are all here, should you need, you know where the mail box is.

xxxxxxx

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Know that you are loved and supported. My condolances.

so sorry to hear that...
please be strong..
i lose my brother 3 months ago:( & i know what that means to mother.
my mom back to her clink. but still so sad:( nothing compared with mother passion...
my real condolences to you & your family.

mycorneroftheworldmycorneroftheworld [Member]
2008-03-20 @ 09:44

This must be the worst nightmare for every parent. My deepest condolences to you!

deleted user [Visitor]

2008-03-20 @ 15:57

O Abilene you have been touched by such cruel fate at times.
I sincerely hope you can withstand this vortex you have been thrust into. I am so very sad for you. I hope your son hears you as you breath. Many kind regards - wifey

Charlie [Visitor]

2008-03-21 @ 01:10

Abi..so very sorry to hear the news :(
thinking of you x

vt1234vt1234 [Member]
2008-03-25 @ 20:31

Hi Abi

I'm so sorry to hear about Cody,

Hugs

take care

Helly [Visitor]

2008-03-28 @ 14:08

I know I may be a little late, but I'm really sorry. I can only repeat what everyone's already said.

Helly x x

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