Where the F did the monsoon outside come from?

I left the house this morning in sunglasses sans coat and brolly.

Fuck.

Believe it or not I do work.

.... have been the following.

2 cups of tea.

4 litres of flavored water.

Small tub of coleslaw (yum yum)

Small serving of spicy chicken.

4 laxative chocolates.

In other news. Played with the pics from Birmingham. All I did was cut out the background. It was only 3 weeks ago but why do I feel like I am so much fatter in the face in person than the picture shows?

EDITED: THIS WAS MOVED FROM ANOTHER BLOG. ALL REPLIES FROM THERE ARE COPIED BELOW.

steve_p [Member]
2007-06-21 @ 15:36

good to see you are not abusing having Photoshop installed on the work PC

Abilene pro
2007-06-21 @ 15:55

I am so responsible.

I just can't figure out why in the hell they decided I needed photoshop. Hardly like I am gonna use it to make tax returns pretty !!!

Old-Nick pro
2007-06-21 @ 15:50

You look happy in that picture.
x

Abilene pro
2007-06-21 @ 15:54

You took it

rowtheboat [Member]
http://rowtheboat.blog.co.uk/
2007-06-21 @ 16:11

Call that sustenance? You're worse than Juzzzy!

x

Abilene pro
2007-06-21 @ 16:31

Hmmmm might be a plan then cos he sure as hell has no fat on him.

RGray1981 pro
2007-06-22 @ 06:31

I would suggest a bit more in the fruit/veg department, Abi. And Michael would suggest a bit of lean meat, but this is dependant upon whether or not you are a meat eater. Fruit and veg and proteins.

And laxative chocolates? Is that truly needed, my dear?

Ryan

Abilene pro
2007-06-22 @ 08:46

I ate some sliced meat last night and a banana (not together).

Laxatives are something you will not be able to talk me out of I am afraid.

x

faffajane pro
http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
2007-06-22 @ 11:13

You are very pretty

It's upside down as I took it myself.

So I guess that means it says Evigrof.

* shrugs shoulders *

Edit to add : Don't forget voting ends tomorrow VOTE NOW

Hi there

Now, without trying to sound all naggy and annoying can I just voice something?

Well, I'm gonna anyway.

If someone posts something as friends only and you are included in that post please be respectful.

See the trust that was shown and honour it. Do not then repeat what was said to anyone else ... probably best to not even discuss with others on the friends list as you have no clue who else was shown the post.

Am I making sense?

Don't ask, I have my reasons.

Ok, this is way past due as I promised certain people I would cover this some time back.

Safe Call

When I feel comfortable enough with someone to arrange an actual meeting there are some things I insist on knowing first. I need an actual landline number (which I call to verify). This usually weeds out the married guys as they obviously don't want wifey to find out. Also having a landline number means that you (or the police) can trace it to an address.

I will NEVER meet someone at their home or in a private place. Always in a pub, restaurant, coffee shop etc. If they want to meet me somewhere private etc then they are not the man for me as this is not about a quick fuck for me.

Once I get to the place we are meeting I call a friend (who knows the situation) to let them know I arrived safe. I also let them know a time that I will call back to check in (usually in about an hour or so). If I do not call and check in the safe call person tries to contact me. If unsuccessful they have my full permission and encouragement to call the police and let them know ALL details. I also call them to let them know I got home safe as well at the end of the 'date'. Any man I meet with who has issues with any of this NEVER gets a second date. A Dom who is genuine will actually make sure you remember to do all this. My safety is paramount and he is aware of this.

I usually do safe calls for at least the first 3 dates with a guy. When finally meeting him in a more private setting I always insist that he lets me walk around his entire house (or hotel suite) to make sure there are no hidden cameras running blah blah.

Am I over cautious? Maybe. Do I care? No. I am alive and am pretty fucking happy to stay that way.

I know this does not guarantee that I won't meet a psycho but it certainly gives me more peace of mind. After all if things go well this man will have me in a situation where he really could do anything with me ... and not always good stuff so it is better to try as much as possible to eliminate certain people. In fact I think I am more cautious and safe than some girl who hooks up with a guy at the pub on Saturday night and takes him back to her place. Now THAT is insane and unsafe.

Which reminds me ... for the person who PM'd me to ask what SSC means.

Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Questions?

EDIT: THIS WAS MOVED FROM ANOTHER BLOG. ALL REPLIES FROM THERE ARE COPIED BELOW.

subville pro
http://subville.blog.co.uk/
2007-06-21 @ 11:54

I'd never thought of these things till you mentioned it a few weeks ago on blog. Makes sense to me

You're so right about the Saturday night thing too *jeez* I've never done that thing, sleeping with a guy you know nothing about???? And the safety aspect scary

xx

TheMusingsOfAMenopausalMama pro
http://theachaprinciple.blog.ca
2007-06-21 @ 14:41

Oh I believe you to be a good judge of character and could weed out the arseholes quickly. What I mean is that you would have a sixth sense about what is right and what is wrong and you would go with your gut feeling.

Abi, when I come to see you, I would love to see some of your gear - the neck chain thingy or whatever you call it simply out of curiosity and my fascination to learn about everything.

Years ago, a dear friend took me to a store in downtown Toronto that was definitely a BDSM store as I look back on it and I was truly amazed at the variety of outfits, whips and so on. Gob-smacked I was...

suzeemoon [Member]
http://suzeemoon.friendpages.com/
2007-06-21 @ 19:35

Excellent post. When I was single I left info on car reg and phone no with friend as well as details of where I was going. I think men should also take similar precautions in case of set-up.

RGray1981 pro
2007-06-22 @ 06:46

Abi, I would love to make a connection between your blog and mine. You have a lot of wisdom to impart and from a slightly different vantage point to mine. Mightn't you consider allowing me to share a link to your blog with others in my circle? Naturally, feel free to answer either way.

I heartily agree with what you're saying here. I know that my situation is different as my Dominant is always the same person, nonetheless I can appreciate your good sense in securing your safety through cautiousness and forward planning. Well done!

Abilene pro
2007-06-22 @ 08:48

Ryan, I am flattered and of course you can share me. (That does not sound right )

Yes, taking care of my safety is number one priority at this stage. Should I eventually be blessed (?) enough to find that one then my safety is then his concern.

rowtheboat [Member]
http://rowtheboat.blog.co.uk/
2007-06-22 @ 14:33

Glad - although not surprised, from what I've got to know of you - that you take such precautions. Excitement, trepidation and a certain level of pain are one thing; real fear and mistrust are completely another.

faffajane pro
http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
2007-06-22 @ 14:54

I only wish more people would take so much care when meeting people for the first time, whether male or female, especially on that hook up on a Saturday night.

I think you are very sensible, as for over cautious, no, you are safe, that is the most paramount thing, one can never be over cautious.

Hugs x

Sienna [Member]
2007-06-28 @ 11:56

Very interesting, it shows how much you respect yourself (and your pleasure).
xx

I will be meeting this person on the 30th and I am sick in my stomach with nerves about it.

I don't remember if I ever updated y'all on what happened when I approached (that is not the right word but best I can do right now) my mom with this. Did I?

p.s. The original post was 'friends only' but I have removed that for the moment.

The guy mentioned here is who I have to sit through a torturous lunch with today.

Who wants to take bets on my hand and his face having a little meeting?

*there is a part 2 to this newsflash I am just trying to figure out how to word it.